Overcoming Death

My children are hurting real bad now, they lost their hero, their Granddad.

Our tears are only for ourselves!   For him we rejoice!
He has overcome death!
He's Home! 

My heartbroken grandson says goodbye.

I feel helpless, but I've learned  a few things about dealing with a loss,

and here is what I'm doing to get through the grieving process, and sharing with them.

    Surviving a Loss

Singing and listening to all the hymns of comfort the country ballads.
 You-tube and Playlist have many  appropriate country songs and hymns.

• Be Not Afraid by Daniel O"Donnell
• Lead Me Home by Jamey Johnson
• Beulah Land by Allison Krauss, the Gaithers, or America's Bluegrass Band   
• Softly and Tenderly by George Jones
• Peace in the Valley by Tennessee Ernie Ford
• Going Home by Clyde Clark,   or Ricky Skaggs
• When I get to Where I'm Going by Brad Paisley
• Amazing Grace by Chris Tomlin

Talking about his great life experiences and family memories, funny stories,
     Write down some stories, find old letters, record people's comments, stories.
    (I blog about it!)  Look at videos and home movies, photo albums. mementos, gifts he gave you.
   Set up a shrine, if you need to, with his photo, the funeral program, anything that reminds you of him.

Letting the tears and sad feelings come.
  Cry, cry some more, it's okay, I tell my kids.  You have to let yourself have those sad feelings, experience the grief, it's part of the process. Then when you think you're done  with the tears, they may come back , but still let them fall.  It may take a long time before the pain stops.

Then celebrate him, his life, his accomplishments, his faith,
 his legacy of love for family, his country and God.

Let others in!
 Don't try to handle it alone, you need others now, and it's wrong to shut them out.  Don't worry about what to say to them, or if they say the wrong things, don't get mad..

Let go, let God.   Ask God to help you.  Sometimes when we are vulnerable like this,  is when we truly realize our need for the Lord in our lives.  He will give you  wisdom, strength and comfort.

Remember, The Great Healer is only a prayer away!

Mae and Walter, married for 67 years!
These were my in-laws, love in action.  What an example!

The oldest  and the youngest.
My  precious grandson, Tommy had  a recent visit with his great-grandfather.

Military honors
 Walter was a WWII Veteran, served  in the U.S. Navy
as a Naval Flight Instructor

A quiet moment  with my granddaughter, at the funeral reception after.
It's important to be a good example to the kids, and give a little extra TLC.

"If ever there is a tomorrow when we're not together...
there is something you must always remember.
 You are braver than you believe,
 stronger than you seem,
 and smarter than you think. 
 But the most important thing is, even if we're apart...
I'll always be with you."
A.A. Milne

  Your friends can be a wonderful source of comfort when you are hurting so bad.

  Let your friends and family in, they want to help you.

Friends, don't quite know what to say?

 Here are some thoughtful expressions I found in a magazine.

Good Grief

When someone you know loses a loved 

one, it's hard to know what to say. Try

these tips from David Kessler, Co author of

On Grief and Grieving     (Scribner)

I am so sorry for your loss.

  I  wish I had the right words ---

just know that I care.

I don't know how you feel, but

I'm here for you.

You and your loved one will be in my thoughts.

My favorite memory of 

your loved one is........

May the peace of God be with you!

Love, Linda

My Earthly Angel - Mother

"A mother is the truest friend we have, when

 trials, heavy and sudden, fall upon us;

when adversity takes the place of prosperity;

when friends who rejoice with us in our

sunshine, desert us when troubles thicken 

around us, still she will cling to us,  and 

endeveador by her kind precepts and counsels

to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and

cause peace to return to our hearts." 

---Washington Irving

My Mother, just sitting on the porch with me.
 She's the  mother of seven children, 21 grandchildren, and 5 great grandchildren!

    She's in her 80's now, and I am so grateful that I still have her, and she's relatively

 healthy and active.  She had a big family, a true blessing in the golden years,
 to have raised a bunch of  strong, healthy, happy kids, and  then watch them
with their children, and now grandchildren. I  am so glad now that  she has so many
people who can all look after her, in her later years. She's got nurses, carpenters, a hairdresser,
  great cooks, seashore homeowners, auto  mechanics, and  plenty of willing chauffeurs in her brood!  
We spoil her, but it's a small reward, not anywhere near enough compensation.
For she certainly earned  a little attention, working so hard raising all of  seven of  us, 
          and humbly maintaining our home. She's shared her faith and love of the Lord with
all of us, always, the best gift you can possibly give your children! 
  In all things acknowledging  Him,  Mother  has always been a shining example  to us! 

                      
                    Thank you, Mother, for the good  life you've given us,
                    and for your constant,  tender love and care.  We honor you today!
 

We visited Mama at the nursing home today.

Sadly, Ted's mother is not doing so well, she can not speak, walk or remember

very much.. But Ted feels blessed that she dearly loved him and always supported

 and encouraged him when she was able.  She was generous, kind and compassionate and 

 taught him to be good and kind, and giving .Most of her years were spent caring for others

 in her long nursing career.She was the driving force behind him, pushing him to get his education.

 We just pray that she stays comfortable the rest of her days,and knows how very 

much we love her.  Thank you,  Mama for your love and care.

"The mother... holds the key of the soul;

 and it is she who stamps the coin of character"

---unknown

   Happy Mother's Day!  

Love, Linda

Wonderful Old Things

         I just returned from a trip.  Traveling is always so mind-broadening and enlightening.
       I see things with new eyes.   I see old things with deeper appreciation.

 Amish farms in the countryside of Pennsylvania.

I love these old farms and I don't understand why we Americans don't cherish

 our farms,  and why so many times "we pave paradise and put up a parking lot".

  Why is the richest farm land in the world turning into outlet malls?

I took all  these pictures of farms, while driving by at 60 mph,

 so they are blurry, but I just think they are so beautiful.

 I stopped in Norwalk,  Ohio. There was a big antiques co-op.

  I loved seeing all the old dishes, vases, linens,  and things from long ago.

Old   Milkglass

Old places

 An interesting  old building that once was a prison, then more recently the home

 of the local sheriff.  It had  a bronze serpent sculpture on the top of it.

Old memories.

We  went to  Berry's Restaurant, where we had eaten 15 years ago on a car-show trip. 

  We ate a fabulous meal in this charming family-owned place with antiques in the dining rooms.  I had "Seafood Saturday",  a scrumptious feast which included lobster ravioli with a  creamy seafood sauce and 3 large grilled shrimp atop it,  a crabcake, and  a juicy piece of  chipotle-glazed salmon.  I chose a waldorf salad as a side, so I didn't need dessert!

Waldorf Salad, an old  all-American favorite, created by the maitre d' of the Waldorf Astoria Hotel,
 in 1893.  Originally it did not include nuts, they were added later. It was just apples, mayo and celery.  

 Here's my version, an old recipe that I've been making since I was a young Navy bride, 40 years ago.

                      My Waldorf Salad_________________ 

1 green apple  and 1 red apple, cored and diced

 a handful of raisins, or halved grapes

1/4 cup coarsely chopped walnuts or pecans

handful of mini marshmallows, optional

1/4 cup sliced celery

1/4 cup mayonaise,  or plain yogurt

splash of lemon juice 

Stir together and serve, 
 or allow to sit  a couple hours,
 so marshmallows begin to 

melt and the flavors meld.

 Serve in your prettiest glass dishes,
 or on a lettuce leaf on a salad plate.
For a delicious main course, 
add cubed,  cooked chicken breast.

 I often make waldorf salad when I just have an apple or two that are  beginning to go soft and need to be used up, and the lemon and other ingredients perk up the flavor.   Definitely will make some this week as we reminesce about the trip and all the good things we ate, and did and saw..........

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I love to see the architecture in the old towns as we visit.

A  lovely shop window    Too bad, it's  "Closed"

A most unusual  old teapot

The most delightful surprise, there were murals decorating the walls of  this big 

 Caputo's Market, near Chicago.  You know how I feel about murals!

And then the sweetest part of our trip---I got to meet Ted's Uncle Wayne 

  He's 95.  He lives in Chicago. 

 He asked for a watermelon from "back home", New Jersey, the Garden State

where he grew up.   So  I got him one,  at the beautiful produce market nearby,  in Des Plaines,

  and told him I'd bring one from New Jersey, some day when I come back in the summer,

when they're in season. 

  We had brunch.  I cooked omelets, Canadian bacon, and English muffins

 and cut up watermelon and strawberries and he loved it.   Bless his heart!  

What a blessing it was to see the beautiful countryside and  visit  this precious loved one. 

 I had a job, but also got to enjoy traveling and stopping at antiques and thrift shops along the way.  

Now I'm inspired and refreshed.  Got my taxes done, my job completed, had a nice scenic ride,

 and a safe return trip  home,  and I'm ready for spring  and fixing up my garden! 

 Can't wait to see the grandkids!  I missed them terribly! 

 Here's Tommy with his little girlfriend, who was born the same day!  

  

Love,  Linda

I've joined the super fun parties at:

Fish for Good Friday

My little Easter Bunny community on my kitchen window sill.

   

 Years ago I was busy making Easter gifts in my ceramics studio into

the wee hours of the night for many days before each holiday.

   Now we have blogs and online shops to tend.

  Recently,  I found some of my vintage ceramics that were never sold,

and I've listed them on my Etsy shop since they are vintage

and they are handmade! 

 Meanwhile, I'm enjoying them on my kitchen windowsill,

 with some of my mini collectibles.

They make me smile, they are my toys!  

 I love Easter and I love miniatures! 

I love to cook too!  Teddy and I went shopping recently and bought some frozen fish,

 so I could make some easy economy meals.  Fried fish is perfect for a meatless

Good Friday meal!   It can be prepared quickly and it's tasty.

 Cole slaw and fries are also good accompaniments, like good old Fish and Chips

from Ted's English heritage.

  

Fried Fish for Good Friday

A simple meal of cucumbers vinegarette, red potatoes, peas,
 and  fried fish  with homemade tartar sauce, at the kitchen table,
 set with  everyday Corelle dishes, old etched glasses, and  colorful vintage linens.

 Whiting, it's flaky and mild tasting. 

At Aldi, I bought  a 2 lb. bag of frozen fillets for $3.99.
I thawed the fish, marinated some cucumbers,started boiling red-skin potato halves, and opened a can of peas to warm.
 I set out 3 plates, assembly-line style, one with flour, one with  a beaten egg and one with bread crumbs, seasoned with salt, pepper, garlic powder, and you can add any herbs you like.
First I coated each fillet in flour, then dipped in the egg wash, and finally the bread crumbs.  I fried them at med-high heat   in a large preheated skillet with about 1/2 inch of oil. . When golden-brown,  I turned  them carefully, using an egg turner and fork. It only takes several minutes on each side,  and it's done when it flakes easily and both sides are nicely browned.
While they are cooking, I mix up some  simple Tartar Sauce, using equal parts mayonaise and sweet pickle relish.
I like to use mayonaise either homemade, which  I make with olive oil, or low-fat,  but you can use whatever mayo you have.
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 How do you like my mismatched silverware?
  I get a kick out of collecting different patterns and am making us
 a unique set of one of a kind pieces.  I like to think of all the tables they
 graced and imagine  the families that used them through the years.
Isn't it fun?

After dinner clean-up, when  all the dishes are done,
 We  sit down with a cups of green tea and some cookies.

This is a vintage tablecloth, with lots of spring flowers 

and it goes with my red and white kitchen.

I am using a darling,  pretty fluted-shaped teacup. 

 I really like the name of the pattern,  "Health and Happiness".

It's  by Royal Stafford Bone China, 

Made in England, from the Special Occasion Series.

 I baked the Swig Cookies, that are all over Pinterest, couldn't resist.
Mandi , from www.vintagerevivals.com, says they're
 "LITERALLY the best cookies known to man"
Who wouldn't like these simple sugar cookies with sour cream frosting?

Our nice little quiet evening meal for two.

 I'm not Catholic, but I know many people keep the tradition of not eating meat on Good Friday.

  Easter Sunday, we'll enjoy a huge  traditional ham dinner with lots of family!  I can't wait to see the children and share the special day with loved ones.  

Easter is so special to me, as I personally celebrate God's gift of his son to us, and  remember his death  and  resurrection..  He's alive, and in me.  And because he made the ultimate sacrifice, and I believe in Him,  I  have eternal life!  It's a free gift to all who believe! 

I feel renewed and joy-filled, my life has meaning and peace "that passeth understanding" !       

May you experience the joy of Easter and know God's love and grace in your life.

Happy Easter Hugs!

  Love, Linda

I'm joining Monday  parties:  Easter Party,   Cottage Style Entertaining at www.etsycottagestyle.blogspot.com

 Mop It Up Monday #60, at
 www.ishouldbemoppingthefloor.com/2013/03/mop-it-up-monday-61.html
                          and
 Kathe's You're Gonna Love It!  at
www.kathewithane.com/2013/03/youre-gonna-love-it-week-47.html