My children are hurting real bad now, they lost their hero, their Granddad.
|Our tears are only for ourselves! For him we rejoice!|
He has overcome death!
|My heartbroken grandson says goodbye.|
I feel helpless, but I've learned a few things about dealing with a loss,and here is what I'm doing to get through the grieving process, and sharing with them.
Surviving a Loss
Singing and listening to all the hymns of comfort the country ballads.
You-tube and Playlist have many appropriate country songs and hymns.
- Be Not Afraid by Daniel O"Donnell
- Lead Me Home by Jamey Johnson
- Beulah Land by Allison Krauss, the Gaithers, or America's Bluegrass Band
- Softly and Tenderly by George Jones
- Peace in the Valley by Tennessee Ernie Ford
- Going Home by Clyde Clark, or Ricky Skaggs
- When I get to Where I'm Going by Brad Paisley
- Amazing Grace by Chris Tomlin
Talking about his great life experiences and family memories, funny stories,
Write down some stories, find old letters, record people's comments, stories.
(I blog about it!) Look at videos and home movies, photo albums. mementos, gifts he gave you.
Set up a shrine, if you need to, with his photo, the funeral program, anything that reminds you of him.
Letting the tears and sad feelings come.
Cry, cry some more, it's okay, I tell my kids. You have to let yourself have those sad feelings, experience the grief, it's part of the process. Then when you think you're done with the tears, they may come back , but still let them fall. It may take a long time before the pain stops.
Then celebrate him, his life, his accomplishments, his faith,
his legacy of love for family, his country and God.
Let others in!
Don't try to handle it alone, you need others now, and it's wrong to shut them out. Don't worry about what to say to them, or if they say the wrong things, don't get mad..
Let go, let God. Ask God to help you. Sometimes when we are vulnerable like this, is when we truly realize our need for the Lord in our lives. He will give you wisdom, strength and comfort.
|Remember, The Great Healer is only a prayer away!|
|Mae and Walter, married for 67 years!|
These were my in-laws, love in action. What an example!
|The oldest and the youngest.|
My precious grandson, Tommy had a recent visit with his great-grandfather.
Walter was a WWII Veteran, served in the U.S. Navy
as a Naval Flight Instructor
|A quiet moment with my granddaughter, at the funeral reception after.|
It's important to be a good example to the kids, and give a little extra TLC.
Your friends can be a wonderful source of comfort when you are hurting so bad.
Let your friends and family in, they want to help you.
Friends, don't quite know what to say?
Here are some thoughtful expressions I found in a magazine.
When someone you know loses a loved
one, it's hard to know what to say. Try
these tips from David Kessler, Co author of
On Grief and Grieving (Scribner)
I am so sorry for your loss.
I wish I had the right words ---
just know that I care.
I don't know how you feel, but
I'm here for you.
You and your loved one will be in my thoughts.
My favorite memory of
your loved one is........
May the peace of God be with you!