As you already know, I am totally wrapped up in the care and adoration of the new baby, Emilie.
I can't think of too much else, or talk about much else, so please pardon this silly grandma,
I just can't help it.
But today, we went out for a bit and stopped at a local market, roadside stand. You do know that new Jersey is the Garden State, right? Even this early in the growing season, the produce looks wonderful.
Mostly it is coming from California or Florida or somewhere, right now. But they had some hot-house tomatoes.
Just had to have a Jersey tomato sandwich as soon as we got home.
Thick slice of tomato, a generous slather of mayonaise, pinch of coarse black pepper and a sprinkle of salt on toast, that's the way I make them. A deliciously simple local favorite!
Even though they are hothouse "maters", they're pretty good!
I got this good multigrain bread at Aldi's, for only $1.89.
I've been making meals for the little family, trying to come up with some new ideas.
|My daughter, me and baby Emilie on Mother's Day|
|My baby girl graduates from law school! So proud!|
So we've been pretty busy with the new baby, graduation ceremony, family celebrations and it's been wonderful. But there are complications and some drama in every family, and it takes a bit of humor, and grace to pull it off and keep everybody happy.
|3 year old Tommy and his brand new baby sister Emily.|
Grandma's tips to keep the older siblings from feeling left out.
- Be patient. Don't push them away, even when they are bothering the baby or you. If you embrace them and gently guide them they will learn to be gentle and not feel neglected. They will be helpful if included.
- Realize they have been dethroned and may have some normal jealous feelings.
- Invent ways to make them feel special. Let them fetch things for you, like a blanket or pacifier.
- Let go. Grandma or other family members can take them on walks and other outings, or just outdoors so Mama and baby can nap in peace. You'll appreciate the break and they will feel special.
- Show them pictures of themselves as a newborn, and tell them they were just as cute, sweet, precious.
- Pray with them at table grace time and bedtime, asking God to help them obey, behave, and be helpful, and thanking God for the new baby and the family you have. You can express your values and gratitude. You can teach them while saying a prayer, and it doesn't hurt for a child to see you talking to God.
- Try to keep normal routines, but allow for extra treats, like staying up later than usual to play a game with Daddy. Be flexible, understanding, everybody is adjusting!
- Praise them! Positive reinforcement creates more positive behavior.
You shall teach them to your children,
talking of them when you are sitting in your house,
and when you are walking by the way,
and when you lie down,
and when you rise. ..
Deuteronomy 11:19 ESV
I am reassuring my daughter that life will settle into more normal patterns,
as the baby learns to eat on more of a schedule, (and not every hour and a half),
when we begin to get more sleep.
In the meantime, I am doing everything possible to make the house run smoothly. Besides diaper changing, and rocking the baby, I'm playing with Thomas, cooking, cleaning, and doing all the dirty work, so my daughter who's nursing can concentrate on her mothering roles, and get some rest while she heals and everyone adjusts to all the changes.
I am also helping with grocery shopping and being an an extra pair of arms when we run errands. Did you know that they make the car seats now, so that they no longer fit in the shopping carts, so I don't understand how a young mother can possibly do her shopping alone, especially with more than one child! Frustrating! So I can solve some problems, just by "being there".
Easy Ant Killer Cotton Balls
Make a solution: 1 cup warm water, 1/2 cup sugar, and 2 Tbsp. Borax.
Soak several cotton balls in solution. Squeeze gently and place soaked
cotton balls wherever you've seen ants making trails.
They will feed and die immediately.
Use care when placing the cotton balls where children and pets are present.
"Every house needs a grandma in it"
Hope you're having as much fun as I am!Love, Linda